Saturday, January 14, 2017

The decade of the word bully.

Bully. The word of the decade.
I know there's a huge need to stamp out bullying, but over using  and incorrectly using the word bully, is only belittling the hard work charities are doing to work against bullying.

It seems that every second person is a so-called bully these days, and the word is becoming meaningless. Especially in social media. I have been high-school bullied. I was pushed, shoved, punched and belittled. I can tell you you now, sharing views or opinions, and having someone disagree and proclaim it's bullying behaviour, only makes true bullying seem less harmless then it actually is. And that's incredibly scary! In fact, it's definying bullying as something so minimal, that bullying is becoming a bigger issue. Why? Because now, everyone is so completely God damn sick of everyone calling each other a fucking bully, anyone that genually is actually, like actually for real, a bully, is getting away with their behaviour!

THIS is the definition of bullying;

A definition of bullying

Bullying is repeated verbal, physical, social or psychological behaviour that is harmful and involves the misuse of power by an individual or group towards one or more persons. Cyberbullying refers to bullying through information and communication technologies.

Bullying can involve humiliation, domination, intimidation, victimisation and all forms of harassment including that based on sex, race, disability, homosexuality or transgender. Bullying of any form or for any reason can have long-term effects on those involved including bystanders.

Bullying can happen anywhere: at school, travelling to and from school, in sporting teams, between neighbours or in the workplace.

Bullying behaviour can be:

verbal eg name calling, teasing, abuse, putdowns, sarcasm, insults, threats

physical eg hitting, punching, kicking, scratching, tripping, spittingsocial eg ignoring, excluding, ostracising, alienating, making inappropriate gesturespsychological eg spreading rumours, dirty looks, hiding or damaging possessions, malicious SMS and email messages, inappropriate use of camera phones.

Conflict or fights between equals and single incidents are not defined as bullying.

 Bullying behavior is not;

children not getting along well. A situation of mutual conflictsingle episodes of nastiness or random acts of aggression or intimidation.

(Source )

Let's re-word that last bit.

Bullying is not;

-ADULTS NOT GETTING ALONG WELL. (Act like a fucking adult and move on in life)
-A SITUATION OF MUTUAL CONFLICT. (Act like a fucking adult and move on in life)
-SINGLE EPISIDES OF NASTININESS. (Act like a fucking adult and move on in life)
-OR RANDOM ACTS OF AGGRESSION OR INTIMIDATION. (Act like a fucking adult and move on in life)

So let's lay of the word "bully" when you don't like someone's opinion, someone's views, someone's strength or confidence or don't get along with someone. Let's only use the word bullying / bully for it's true meaning so bulling problems can actually be stamped out.

Let's make 2017 the year people stopped being so damn dramatic over the word bully.

-Harley xx

Sunday, January 8, 2017

2017 Goals!

2017 Goals!

Goodbyyyye 16, hello 17!
I have great hopes of fun & adventures with you. Bring it on!!

* Turn my data off more, spend more time off my phone during the day. More time connecting with life.

* Make more effort for adventures with the kids. Build memories. Bus to the beach & weekends away.

* Embrace my body, wear a bikini.

* Write daily, write a book! Continue blogging.

* More effort connecting with friends. Catching up. Make time to spend quality time with them.

* Do something fun every Tuesday with Jydan. Movies, pool, adventures, bike rides, visit his friends. Jydan day!

* Celebrate occasions more. Birthdays, Easter, Christmas in July. Make occasions incredibly fun and excited. Be creative!

2017 will be about building relationships and building my kids and myself up.

Cheers! 🍻

- Harley xx

Wednesday, December 21, 2016


Well, you'll go down in history for the most craziest year, won't you! You will be remembered as the year I understood Brittany Spears 07 more than ever, and the year I made the toughest decisions.
However, thanks for teaching me patience, love, organisation and kindness.

I realize how much I've accomplished this year, traveling to Singapore, finding incredible happiness, contentness & confidence, losing weight, becoming a DIRECTOR with Scentsy, meeting people & making friends, my business soaring, my kids soaring, my friendships blossoming! I've cried more than ever, screamed more than ever, had more meltdowns than I can count and laughed more than I have in a very long time.

I've been through clouds, had breakfests pool sides, climbed up poles, been eaten by fish, been on planes and faresswheals, taxis in other countries & theme park rides. Ive dieted & induldged. I've been creative, independent & strong. I've made dresses, cakes, and homes. Flower picking, wine drinking, dancing, got fit. I've built a business, and two fierce little people. I've lived.

Ive truely lived.

  Here's to 12 more opportunities & 365 more chances. ❤

Sunday, November 27, 2016

Life right now = exhausting.

 Sickness has ruled my family for the last two weeks.
Realizing that sometimes putting your kids first IS working more / harder, but still trying to find balance as a work-at-home-mum, while gunning for a promotion.
 Balancing being the "perfect mum" with the "that'll do mum" , but still trying to meet every single on of their needs, While my daughter sports sleepless nights.
Teaching, educating, playing, cooking, cleaning. School, playgroup, playdates, appointments, work, Christmas organising and still have some me time and keeping friendships with my own friends.
Juggling the strain of "trying" to sort out belongings, finances and children and an up-coming divorce, and making our house more homely.
One of those weeks where everything falls apart at once and you just can't please anyone... Which I care about way more than I like to admit.
 I'm just... Exhausted right now.

I know it's only a season and 'this too shall pass', and I wouldn't change a thing (maybe some more sleep, and a cleaning fairy), I love my children MORE than anything in this world, but bring on all the coffee right now! And redbull with breakfast may just be becoming more regular!

-Harley xx